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Do I have to prepare or bring something with me?
When should I not receive a massage?
Parkinson, spasticity, amputations, etc.
How is a massagedate structured?
How naked is the massage given?
What do I do if ...
Fear of letting go
Do we talk during the massage?
Tantra, Body to Body, Erotic Massage, Touching
BondTable: Bondage, SM, Pain
What to do with my arousal?
At the end of the journey
Do you also massage women?
Appointments & Timeliness
Black Massage Oil
About the video


 
Do I have to prepare or bring something with me ?

  It sure comes in handy if you took your last shower not too long before the massage, but if neccessary you can sure also take a shower here. Towels, soap, etc are available here of course.

When showering, you should note that neither the spaces between the toes nor butt cracks clean themselves just because water is running over them. Especially if your butt has seen dry toilet paper only throughout the day, the use of soaped hands in this region is highly recommended. You'll find soap in the blue five-liter canister in the shower.

Bring along some extra minutes of time more than what you want the duration of the massage to be.

It is recommended to abstain from taking deodorants, perfume, hairstyling gel, etc on the morning of the massage. To have such flavorsome and often gluey cosmetics rubbed over the entire body can be pretty awkward. At the latest at the head and facemassage.
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When should I not receive a massage ?

  Massage should be avoided by people with heart or kidney failure, infection of the superficial veins, phlebitis or soft tissue, cellulitis, blood clots in the legs, bleeding disorders, and contagious skin conditions. If you have cancer, check with your doctor before considering massage.

People with rheumatoid arthritis, goiter, eczema, and other skin lesions should not receive massage therapy during flare-ups. People with osteoporosis, high fever, few platelets or white blood cells, and mental impairment, as well as those recovering from surgery, should avoid massage as well as those with any kind of traumatic fractures of bones or joints.
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Parkinson, spasticity, amputations, etc.

  Given your physician doesn't have any objections, i'd be glad to massage you. I'm well familiar with handicaps and movement disorders. Usually i can tune in into those conditions pretty fast and well. Going up stairs have to be managed by yourself however.
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How is a massagedate structured ?

  First you come in, we sit down, have a water if thirsty and get to know each other a bit. Doing so we also clarify some things, like tickish spots on your body, or those that tend to easily cramp or could otherwise be problematic. How much emphasis you put on force or tenderness receiving a massage, what degree of nakedness you're comfortable with the most and what spots on your body you want to be touched only rarely and those you love to have stoken the most ...

When all is harmonious we go over into the massageroom and start off. We begin in face-down position on the headrest and at first i will swing your body at your feet until you're lying straight. Then it's time to delve into the massage.

After about half an hour i will ask you to turn around on your back. Doing so, please move down a bit until the tip of your head is aligned with the top of the table. I will take away the headrest on that occasion, too. First i will strech you in a straight position again, then perhaps ask you to lift your upper body a bit, so i could place my hands underneath your back for you to lay on them. The rest is simply further relaxing completely and enjoying until the end.
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How naked is the massage given ?

  As naked as we both feel comfortable with. While massaging every bit of cloth on the body is of course distracting. I don't treat your body parts differentiated from each other. There are many gliding moves that in one big wave run over a large area of your body.

Rings, chains, piercings, earrings, etc can under circumstances pose a serious threat. A left on panty might be less problematic, but nonetheless fingers are likely to get entangled in them and take away a lot of the flow and harmony of a full body massage.

I sure understand when someone -specially the first time- feels more secure, if he's not layed out completely naked in front of me. A nice compromise can be a small piece of cloth that only covers the most neccessary areas and floats along flexibly with my movements.

Some feel more secure if they're not alone being naked, some on the other hand, if i stay dressed. Whatever feels best for you - let me know and we'll find the best solution.
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What do I do if...

  Pee : Ask how long it approximately takes until the turn-over or the end and decide if you can stay relaxed for that amount of time or have to go to the loo right away.

Nose running or clogged : Unfortunately a problem in face-down position that cannot be avoided completely, even with the best head rests. While rolling over on your back there's a chance to blow into a tissue, else breathe through your mouth and let saliva simply run. I usually place a piece of foot-sure shielding fleece on the floor underneath the headrest. That getting a bit wet is just as normal as the water that runs out of a trumpet or didgeridoo when played on.

Erections, pre-cum & ejaculating: Those are all totally natural and beautiful possibilities of how your body reacts to intense touches or the swinging of a massage in the slingtable. Don't force anything, don't suppress anything, just let it all stand up and fall and flow as it happens to you. Let it come and go, follow and enjoy without evaluating or wanting.

Else : Clearly and briefly say what's happening.
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Fear of letting go

  Every stroke or part of the massage starts off with a tender prelude that puts you and your body in the right mood. There are recurring, careful stretchings of the whole body that are conducted at the feet and the upper spine, as well as some soft extensions. Those are all slowly and tenderly administered and the more you relax, the better it works.

Also, when i lift up one of your arms or legs,- stay loose. Spread out fingers don't help me to massage your hands and a neck turning, or moving of arms that hurry ahead, take away my chance of working with the self-weight of your body in its natural flow. The more you let yourself fall, the better and more fluidly i can work.

Some have light troubles at first with that and keep a certain tension in their muscles, often without being aware of it. That is also pretty natural and in case i whisper 'let go', simply take a deep breath into the body part that i touch that moment and let yourself fall a bit deeper once more.
 
Do we talk during the massage ?

  As less as neccessary. Short important messages ('very ticklish there', 'love good pressure here', 'have to pee really urgently') should sure get articulated clearly, but i'm not capable of having a conversation while i massage. My entire concentration lies within your body, it's reactions, my strokes, movements, the flow that develops between us.

Every distraction will take us both out of the experience and it's intensity. Massage is a precious time in that only body and soul call the shots. Longer sentences only make sense and complement the experience if they carry important messages inner a meditative massage with a previously set context.
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Tantra, Body to Body, Erotic Massage, Touching

  Tantra: Unfortunately, the word tantra is used so arbitrarily that it has become a meaningless term. In its origin, Tantra is an Indian philosophy in which there are also rituals that are sexual in nature and are learned by both partners (!). From this, in the 1990s, the westernized Neotantra was developed, and in turn, the one-sided Tantra Massage service.

There are now vibrators, scented candles, lubricants, porn, and a variety of prostitution offers using this undefined brand name. I know what Tantra can mean, and that's why I don't know what actually is meant when someone asks me about Tantra.

If you tell me what you wish for yourself from Tantra, I can tell you what of that I can and am willing to realize, that at least deserves the term 'tantric'.

Body to Body: Without prior knowledge of the hygiene conditions of my clients, I make no promises about the degree of physical closeness that I can accept for the massage. I do not massage on the floor, a bed or a futon, but on tables and in slings that will not stand up to the weight of two people.

Consequently I do not lay myself on top of someone else in order to massage him with my hole body. Nevertheless, I can certainly use more of my body than just my hands in a massage, as long as cleanliness, sympathy and mutual, respectful treatment are present. See also the point 'Touching' below.

Erotic Massage: In essence, the word 'erotic' means to act and feel sensually related to someone else and it is clearly delimited from primarily sexual aspects. In linguistic usage, however, it is often used as a substitute term for sex. In my mind every massage should be sensual, because the opposite of it would be mechanical and insensitive.

A distinct refusal goes out to those who under the umbrella term 'erotic massage' simply seek for an oily foreplay followed by sexual intercourse.

I normally do not have any problems with not broadly avoiding genitals like many masseurs do, as long as the one receiving the massage is able to retain in a passive-receptive role while getting touched in his intimate area and keeps enjoying the entirety of his body.

Touching: Also the often asked question: 'May I touch the masseur?' is not an easy one to answer.

For some, 'touching' means that they want to hold a part of my body in their hand throughout the entire massage, some keep snapping at each and every touch of their palms, clutching my hands, while others just let me know by occasional, unobtrusive strokes, that they feel most comfortable.

Basically, I have nothing against casual touches, but unfortunately many see this as a free ticket for clumsy groping, which I don't like at all. I do not want to be held down or dragged into certain positions, nor to be stroked back at every opportunity.

Neither my body or nipples are pleased by pressing fingers. If you want to take over the direction of a massage, it only creates frustration on both sides. Relax and let me do my job, or consider giving massages yourself if you care more about being actively involved than being touched.
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BondTable: Bondage, SM, Pain

  BondTable: The Bondage Massage Table is a massage table with minimal bearing surface. In comparison to a normal massage table the bondage table accomplishes a feeling of being bedded loose and free. Arms, legs and other body parts are accessible from all sides, offering a totally new, holistic massage experience. Especially comfortable for men is the ergonomic cavity underneath the genital area. The constricting sentiment of lying on one's testis or penis or having to tuck them down between the thighs dissolves. Your sensible body parts have all the freedom they need on the Bondage Table to also fully relax or unfold.

Bondage: The cushioned support pads sure are inviting to wrap and bind up the body with cloth or foil around them, but this possibility isn't everybody's taste of course. To experience the comfort and unique coenesthesia of the Bondage Table, a binding isn't even neccessary. Bondage is only an option that some love to make use of, while others prefer to have complete freedom. Either way - the Bondage Table is an experience of a special kind.

SM & Pain: It's a rampant misunderstanding that bondage gets primarily used to conduct sadomasochistic, painful treatments. In reality for many people the restriction of mobility results in a much heightened intensity of one's experience and supports the ability to let yourself fall into your feelings. Sensations and stimuli get perceived with a much higher intensity irrespective of a rather tender or harder quality. I have absolutely no intent of inflicting any kind of unasked pain.
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What to do with my arousal ?

  Some guys have a problem with calming down without an orgasm after having experienced arousal. At this point take my advice that most of the arousals will soothe by themselve in the course of the massage and float back into the body. Charged like that having sex later that day might be enriched a lot. In case the pressure doesn't cool down by itself to a bearable degree, there are some possibilities of getting rid of it.

On one hand you're lying completely naked, oiled up and warm under a towel, on the other - the shower is not far away. Not to be expected is that i get you some active relief. After havig given a massage i am first of all exhausted, very heated, have to cool off and get back to my inner self. A massage goes into the body and not out of it. It should build up energies and not discharge them.

It can happen during a massage to have an inner or outer orgasm, without anyone having been going for it. Sometimes through integrated intensive, sometimes rather accidental or even completely without any intimate touches. But you can neither promise nor schedule that to happen, nor prevent it if it happens.
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At the end of the journey

  Kithara ends as harmoniously as it had begun. During the entire massage i keep body contact and sometimes you sense my hands still touching you after i let go. The safest sign that the jouney is over is you feeling a towel on your body, me putting on sox over your feet an then leaving the room.

Take your time to let the massage echo off in your body until you come back into motion again. Extent, stretch and slowly sit up. You'll find you socks between your feet those you should put on in order to avoid sliding on your oily soles.
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Do you also massage women ?

  Yes, and although i don't feel any sexual attraction towards women, i massage them with increasing enthusiasm. The way they can receive and enjoy sensuality, without lapsing into hormic desire, is a pleasure over and over again.
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Appointments & Timeliness

  Appointments: Appointments are only available after prior agreement via the web form, by phone or email. Whataspp calls, shallow chitchats, funny memes & videos as well as hidden caller IDs don't work. Spontaneously showing up in front of my door and ringing the bell makes absolutely no sense.

For inquiries for an appointment, please specify your time windows right away, so that I can offer you appropriate dates. So please - think about when you want to come, because if you do not know that, then I can not know that either.

Timeliness: My appointments are adapted to the time windows of other customers. If you have an appointment with me, I kindly ask that you appear a maximum of 5 minutes before the scheduled appointment. Not 20 or 30 minutes before, otherwise you might run into the previous customer or I did not have time to drink, eat, clean up or relax for a while. Not a good condition to meet a relaxed masseur.

Since, before I start a treatment, I turn off my phone and the dooor bell, I sure cannot answer any calls, the intercom, or open the door for you.

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Black Massage Oil

  It isn't really black, but sure pretty dark gold-brown-olive. This is due to some of the tinctures and oils that i blend together, following an old recipy. The ingredients all meet the strict rules for pharmaceutical matrixes or foodstuffs and can provide the appropriate certificates of analysis. The dark coloring is a sign of best possible naturalness of the substances. I conciously decided against bleached alternatives.

Ingredients: St.John's (Hypericum perforatum)-, Wolf's Bane (Arnica montana)-, Scotch marigold (Calendula officinalis)-, Lavender (essential)-, Coconut-, Olive- Oil, Field Horsetail Tincture (Equisetum arvense), Shea Butter. Not available in any store and would almost be unaffordable in price.
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About the video

  Man receiving the massage: Michael, a good friend of mine with whom i mutually massage for many years now.

Why i'm naked: Cause i forgot to put on the pants you see hanging over the door for the videoshoot.

Music: by AES DANA. Yes, i do have the required license to play this remix in the video.

Time: ~ 60 minutes original footage, shot in one go.

End: I place his socks between his feet. Usually i put them on the feet, so it won't be forgotten to wear them.
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